Speaking of abortion...............................

[finnbow]

Originally Posted by whell

I know personally families who've paid tens of thousands of dollars to facilitate the adoption of a child from Russia, Argentina, etc., ....

... because they don't want to adopt a black baby.

[piece-itpete]

Query: how many folks here have adopted a black baby?

Pete

[finnbow]

Originally Posted by piece-itpete

Query: how many folks here have adopted a black baby?

Pete

You're probably helping me make my point, Pete.

[piece-itpete]

Heck I've never adopted period. My dog was black though.

Pete

[whell]

Originally Posted by finnbow

... because they don't want to adopt a black baby.

I personally know families who have done exactly that. However, I'll concede a small point to your post: some folks are wary of the stigmas that still exist in that scenario that are fostered in both the white AND black communities.

No, the issue is and will continue to be that the biological parent can resurface and instigate legal action to nullify the adoption. The emotional and financial costs of such a scenario is too much for those considering an adoption to take on.

[finnbow]

Originally Posted by whell

I personally know families who have done exactly that. However, I'll concede a small point to your post ....

As do I, but I know far more than have gone to China, Korea, and Russia.

As for you conceding a small point to me, I'm in complete shock.

[d-ray657]

Originally Posted by piece-itpete

Query: how many folks here have adopted a black baby?

Pete

We were fortunate enough to not be one of the couples who were looking to adoption as a means of having a family. The query should be how many folks here who have adopted have adopted a black baby. It would become a more relevant question then.

Regards,

D-Ray

[d-ray657]

Originally Posted by whell

I personally know families who have done exactly that. However, I'll concede a small point to your post: some folks are wary of the stigmas that still exist in that scenario that are fostered in both the white AND black communities.

No, the issue is and will continue to be that the biological parent can resurface and instigate legal action to nullify the adoption. The emotional and financial costs of such a scenario is too much for those considering an adoption to take on.

But doesn't that put a lie to the anti-abortion agencies who would promise a woman facing an unwanted pregnancy that if she gave birth the baby would be adopted. You can't say that people are going overseas because of the legal difficulties adopting here, and also say that anti-abortion agencies are going to arrange an adoption.

Regards,

D-Ray

[piece-itpete]

I think folks are worried more about crack babies.

Pete

[merrylander]

When we adopted our son the lady asked how we felt about mixed blood. At the time I was not certain that I would been able to handle the problems (yes we have racists in Canada also). She laughhed and said that she was not referring to black or asian, but did we have problems with non-english babies. My jaw hit the desk but she told us that some people refuse to adopt outside of their ancestry (as if half of them know).

We were quickly approved and got our son at 2 months of age. There was one unannounced visit and that went smoothly, after six months they sent us his birth certificate listing us (me and my first wife) as his parents and that was it. I can't recall if there were any fees or not, if there were they must have been so small that they did not register enough for me to recall.

See no need to go to Russia or China, now how is it that the politicians here can screw up everything they touch, inquiring minds want to know.