Bitching for no reason...

[Dondilion]

I do not know what to tell you.

For me: I often convince myself that a lot of the things I thought important
are not really.

[BlueStreak]

Originally Posted by Charles

I am in no way trying to piss you off, but you're miserable because you're making yourself miserable. I'm sure that is you pay attention to your thoughts, you will realize that you're dwelling on the notion that you're miserable, thus conditioning yourself to be miserable.

The solution is simple, stop doing it. Accept the fact the no one or nothing is perfect, including yourself. Realize that whatever is eating at you is neither good or bad...it simply is. It's like a rock in your path. Either push it out of the way or go around it. Or take a different path. Just don't waste your time focusing on the rock, it is unworthy of your attention.

I realize this is pretty lame, but you can either be miserable or happy, they both require the same amount of effort. You can either focus on the damned rock in your path, or ignore it and go somewhere else.

And while you're at it, take a look in your rucksack. You'll probably find that it's full of past miseries. So dump them out right beside the rock and lighten your load.

You don't need to drag them along, you'll find plenty of miseries on down the road. You don't need 'em anyway, unless you're a misery collector...like my sister in law.

Think about it, things aren't so bad that someone else doesn't have it way worse.

Chas

PS: The only reason I'm wasting my time writing this is because I used to be a misery collector too...until I realized what I was doing.

Great advice, right here.

If it holds you back, why drag it around with you? I carried a lot of old crap in my rucksack for a long time. Best thing I ever did was chuck that bastard and move on.

Dave

[JJIII]

Zeke, you are a strong-willed, intelligent man. Take control and live your life the way you want it. I've been depressed at times in my past too. Shake it off and move on.


(Go over to AK and read the Joke of the Day thread. Laughter is the best medicine.)

[Rajoo]

Zeke, every day is a new opportunity to build a new past. Hate is a wasted emotion.
If you can accept these concepts, then each new day is filled with hope. Joy comes when hopes are fulfilled. I try and do the next best thing and if I fail, tomorrow is a new day. As Chas put so eloquently, leave your emotional baggage behind.

[Charles]

Originally Posted by BlueStreak

Great advice, right here.

If it holds you back, why drag it around with you? I carried a lot of old crap in my rucksack for a long time. Best thing I ever did was chuck that bastard and move on.

Dave

And if all else fails...get drunk and be somebody!!!

I'm tempted to get started right now, but I hate to be on my ass before Bob gets out of bed.

Chas

[merrylander]

Misery collection? Yeah I guess toward the end of the first marriage if my doctor had told me I only had two more months to live I probably would have thanked him.

[barbara]

Life is too short.... Don't have the time to waste worrying about stuff. Just stay busy living a full life.

[Zeke]

1. Great stuff, all of it.
2. Sometimes, I just rhetorically dump words.
3. It makes me feel better, as does feedback.

You see -- for me -- when you get out what you're thinking, then you're done thinking it. In addition, when I'm mad and frustrated by anything, it helps me to acknowledge that I am, in fact, so.

Then, a swift kick in the ass helps.

I appreciate.

[one1]

Originally Posted by Zeke

1. Great stuff, all of it.
2. Sometimes, I just rhetorically dump words.
3. It makes me feel better, as does feedback.

You see -- for me -- when you get out what you're thinking, then you're done thinking it. In addition, when I'm mad and frustrated by anything, it helps me to acknowledge that I am, in fact, so.

Then, a swift kick in the ass helps.

I appreciate.

I am the same way,selfpity is a monster.I just try and think that some people would trade there problems with mine in a heart beat,then i see i really had nothing to bitch about in the first place.Life is what you put into it.

well i burnt the punkin pie hope everything else comes out ok,Boy do I miss my mom and her cookin,

Hey Zeke, wish you lived by me ,you could come by and get somn to eat and shoot the breeze for a while.

[Charles]

Originally Posted by merrylander

Misery collection? Yeah I guess toward the end of the first marriage if my doctor had told me I only had two more months to live I probably would have thanked him.

I would have asked him to put it in writing. I've been there, just different situations.

Face it, everyone gets kicked in the nuts every so often. But the cheapest shot of all is when we jump in after the whistle and lay a few licks on ourselves.

Chas