Today has been a difficult emotional day.
 

1. Life failures haunt us all.
2. Sometimes, they exist in physical manifestation.
3. Sometimes, your former in-laws have to put your married life dog down.

And, sometimes, that canine is the last manifestation of a dream that you once had.

This is a public forum. It is not a forum my ex-wife will ever seek out. In fact, as a guess, the only people who will ever seek this out will be (at some level) enemies. Only enemies would ever try this hard.

4. That woman, was a fine wife.
5. That dog (there were two but we're discussing the beagle) was a fine dog.

I don't know what the Hell I am doing, right now.

I do know this: if/when anyone finds this -- for any reason -- and tries to use it against me?

That admission is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Use what against you?

"Oh my GOD, Zeke is HUMAN!":confused:

Dave

Look. Since we're making admissions;

I've never been married, but there are a few fine women in my wake. I was talking to one earlier tonight. The problem is, I've always been a loner. I don't do commitment in a relationship........at all, really. It's me, I'm an ass and I know it. Once they start to get "clingy", or even worse, BOSSY, I push them away. I don't know why, I just do.

I'm told I'm "insensitive and rude". The real me is quiet, most of the time. But, when I'm not........Well, you've all read my posts.

Chances are, when a woman tells you she needs companionship and you tell her to "Get a cat." or "I could replace you with a jar of Vaseline.".....it's over.

Oh, BTW; Sorry to hear about the dog.

Dave

I wonder Dave how you did and do survive in a society where family is the


GREATEST!


Being an elder single or even not married in the States must be pretty similar like being for instance a paedophile? I am single, too.

Pedophile? Was zum Teufel redest du? Ich bin kein Kind Ficker. Sind Sie?:rolleyes:

I come from a large family I have six siblings and lots of nieces, nephews and grand nieces and nephews.

It saddens me to hear of the loss of your dear companion. Let us hope it was to relieve suffering and was done with compassion.


BTW Zeke I too would be hurting if the woman I've know since seventeen and married at nineteen almost forty years ago were to be out of my life. This news coming right after Valentines Day might of made the sting even more painful.

Barney

Ahh Dave you know what I mean - being some sort of "outcast" if one has no own family. That's all.

Zeke my friend, my heart hurts fo you. When our last little dog passed it was tough, we still keep his ashes. When my first marriage failed I wondered if I had screwed up. Then I met Florence or rather Divine Providence put us together in that blizzard. I hope it has someone out there to bind your wounds.

SERIOUS: perhaps I was a bit more lit than I realized, last evening? :)

I was lamenting missing the dog!

It is unusual for me to be overtly emotional but -- completely on accident and without conscious thought -- I drove by my old house last evening.

Nostalgic deja vu was nearly overwhelming about a life long gone.

Fear that someone would "use anything against me?" It's not as high handed deep thought self-righteous as it sounds, I was just embarrassed by what seeing that former home did to me. My instinct in such things is to not acknowledge that such feelings/thoughts occur. What I have found, is that to accept it occurs is a strength, not a weakness.

I am glad to see you growing and acknowledging yourself as a human being. I do not have a PhD in psychology, but have made a lifelong study of cognitive behavioral therapy. From my observations and experiences I believe that not allowing and/or repressing emotions can have some pretty devastating effects, varying from mild depression to sociopathy. I admire your openness in these forums.